I read this book after having returned
from Kazakhstan with our 11 month old
son. While I agree with a couple of the
other reviewers that it could be a bit
depressing at times, I also found it to
be a very valuable tool in helping me
assess some of my son's behaviors and
recognize what might be adoption related
versus typical toddler behavior. There
were many valuable suggestions for those
with toddlers who are dealing with
emotional trauma. This book is not for
the faint of heart, but those who have
the courage to read it pre-adoption and
use it to help evaluate their prospective
child might find it is the best resource
they have access to.
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people found the following review
helpful:
A very valuable resource
for parents of adopted toddlers,
November 28, 1999
Reviewer:
An Amazon.com Customer
This book is a practical, upbeat guide
for parents who have adopted a child who
is old enough to carry with them the
weight of past experiences and the loss
of former attachments (or the hurt of
lack of attachments) yet are not old
enough to express their emotions or
memories in a way that can help their new
parents help them. Hopkins-Best has
helped unravel some of the mysteries that
come with toddlers with a
"past". I found her approach
extremely helpful with our Romanian son
adopted recently at the age of 34 months.
I learned that some of the eating
problems were actually rooted in
attachment problems and that I had been
handling the outbursts at the table in
exactly the wrong way. Within days of
changing my reaction his behavior
improved dramatically. I wish I had read
the book before I adopted a toddler, but
I'm glad I read it soon after or we may
have had a much longer struggle with
attachment. I would consider this
"required reading" for anybody
looking to adopted a child over the age
of one year.
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Excellent Resource,
January 30, 2003